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What You Resist Persists

I was speaking with someone who is very close to me today and realized that this conversation comes up in similar ways all the time with my friends/family. And I notice this conundrum internally often as well. The conversation started with her saying “why do I suck at this so badly.” The topic of conversation doesn’t matter. What matters is the fact that she has expressed multiple times wanting to change this about herself.

Herein lies the problem – what you resist persists. Continue to judge yourself for something and it will be that much more difficult to shift, like self-extraction from quicksand.

make your reality

So I say:

“Don’t judge yourself for what you are or are not. Choose differently, take baby steps, and make your life the reality you desire it to be.”

This does not mean you need to change. This does not mean that you are perfection just as you are right now. It means that if you constantly are bumping up against a challenge, your heart is crying out for some expansion in a new direction.

Ask for guidance, listen to the messages, and take one step at a time in the direction your heart and soul tell you to go.

Be careful, in transition times, you may feel strange. Maybe a void. Maybe a bit like wearing frozen underwear. It’s space. Space created that is necessary in order to expand. Don’t try to fill that space with old familiarity. Rather, live in the ‘uncomfortable’ and know that it is not wrong. It’s transformation and expansion working. Let them work on your behalf.

Continue to ask for guidance, listen to the messages, and move forward with your heart’s words.

Thoughts?

Adventures in Transformation

The first day of my trip this February, I was walking along the flagstone path, toward the beach, the sun was bathing me in glorious rays and the air was big and sweet as it is only in Hawaii. My higher self said, “you will be going through some huge transitions in the near future, buckle up, hold tight and keep listening. I adventured for seven days with my cousin in a place that I can only describe as “feeling like home” in every way possible. Every day was sun-kissed; from waking up with the birds early in the morning to watching the sun go down at night.

sunset

Kona sunset

Sunrise Hawaii

Kona Sunrise

 

Hawaii feels like pure love. I was talking about the air in Hawaii with a friend recently and we concluded that it is just so welcoming and loving, like it hugs you in its arms. It’s not overly muggy and suffocating; it is present ant loving. Hawaii embodies many of my values: Fun, Adventure, Unconditional Love, Growth & Expansion, Awareness, Abundance, and Health. When a place embodies your values, it’s easy to fall in love. Very easy.

Some of the highlights of our trip:

  • A dolphin swim along the Kona coast, snorkeling with two beautiful pods of 200+ spinner dolphins, followed by humpback whale watching
  • Hiking over lava fields to through valleys to secluded beaches to do more snorkeling
  • Climbing Banyan trees, crossing rivers, swimming under majestic waterfalls and cliff jumping
  • Tasty meals with new-found friends
  • Relaxing days by the pool, enjoying life to its fullest

Most importantly, for seven days, I did not work. Not one bit. I am so grateful that my cousin Danielle chose me to travel with her to Hawaii to celebrate her 30th birthday! Enjoy the visual vacation below:

Hawaii Collage

Bday dinner

A special thanks to our “local hosts” who showed us off-the-beaten-path Hawaii, and our awesome Aussie friend. We will meet again!

Returning or as I called it “reintegration,” was tough for both Danielle and me. It can be difficult to describe getting bit by the “travel bug,” which was definitely the case for both of us. But it was more than that. There was a point in the middle of our trip where we both looked at each other and without hesitation we both said, “this feels like home. True home. It’s going to be really tough to leave, isn’t it?!”

Since coming home, both Danielle and I have gone through some tough transition, although I don’t like labeling it as ‘tough’ because change is change and change is good. I know more about what I am creating in life and what it takes to get me there. By no means do I feel like this transitional period is over. I continue to listen to my higher self and take one. step. at. a. time. Trusting that I am fully supported.

Some of the places we visited on our stay and definitely recommend!

Hilton Waikoloa
Pololu Valley
Sunlight on Water
Rainbow Falls
Kealakekua Bay
Da Poke Shack
Roy’s
Full Moon Cafe

2013; A Reflection in Photos

I was wondering why it felt so difficult to write this blog post. Or to send Christmas cards. I mean, all that’s required is that I give people a little bit of insight into what 2013 brought for me. Then I remembered, I have transformed so much this year and time is pretty relative for me. I live in the presence so much that reflecting on the past or projecting in to the future brings me out of bliss.

“If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.” Laozi

I have ultimate gratitude for the incredible individuals who contributed to my professional, personal and spiritual growth this year and celebrate everything we all accomplished together. I truly have the most phenomenal professional community, friends, and family who love me for exactly who I am. Thanks to the spiritual journey I have taken, I no longer feel the need to change or the need to be any different because I have beautiful, unconditional self-love.

If you are still reading, thank you for being my friend and my supporter. The following is a photo collage of some of my fun adventures this year.

I LOVE my friends and continuously adventure with them!

I had numerous fun speaking engagements throughout 2013

I had numerous fun speaking engagements throughout 2013

Family Christmas 2013

Family Christmas 2013

My parents and me, Christmas 2013
My parents and me, Christmas 2013

 

 

 

I work out at Blunt Force Training with some of Denver's best trainers

I work out at Blunt Force Training with some of Denver’s best trainers

Me, Joe Pulizzi and Alexandra Briggs at Social Media Marketing World 2013

 

 

My sweetie and I went to Chicago to visit his family

My sweetie and I went to Chicago to visit his family

I host events for Certus Professional Network and serve the President of the FRICAH 3to5 Club

 

I facilitated the first Denver Social Media Marketing Mastermind - the most amazing group of women

I facilitated the first Denver Social Media Marketing Mastermind – the most amazing group of women

I adventured in  Puerto Vallarta with some friends

I adventured in Puerto Vallarta with some friends

 

Nate and I adopted the world's cutest puppy, Layla, a retriever- terrier mix

Nate and I adopted the world’s cutest puppy, Layla, a retriever- terrier mix

 

Looking for New Ways to Serve your Target Audience and Make Money? Try Affiliate Marketing!

In case you haven’t yet tapped into it, affiliate programs can be a *great* source of additional income for anyone who has a sphere of influence.

How big does that sphere of influence have to be you ask? Well, if they are like-minded and share similar interests, it doesn’t have to be very big at all – maybe a couple hundred people. The more important question is – how influential are you to that sphere of influence?

Where to start? Are there products/services/providers you LOVE? Chances are, they have an affiliate program. Go to their website and look. Probably near the bottom of the home page, sometimes near the top. There could be a link that says “Affiliates” or “Referral Partners” or “Referral Partner Program.” <see example illustrations at the bottom of this post> Click that link and find out how to sign up to be an affiliate. If you don’t see a link, and you believe that the company is big enough to have a program, send them a message via the contact form on their website.

As you blog/post on Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn, etc and speak about your daily life and interests, you can insert your affiliate links and when someone clicks your link to find out more, their IP address is generally “hard coded” to your link and whenever they return to the site to make purchases, you get an affiliate commission. Typical affiliate programs pay 20-50% commission on the products bought through your affiliate links! In some cases, that can mean some serious dough!

And, think you don’t have time to recommend these products? WRONG! Most quality affiliate programs give you sample posts/tweets to use which you can use to promote their products and just insert your affiliate link. Then you can use a tool like Hoot Suite to schedule posts to go out on your various social networks, or include them in your email updates, or blog posts.

**Things to Note**

  • The more of an ‘invitation’ that you are to these products and programs, the more effective you will be. Natural communication about them rather than straight promoting
  • Keep in mind that when promoting on social media, you should only promote less than 20% of the time that you are online. If you ‘use’ your online networks strictly for promotion, your sphere of influence will stop paying attention to you. Use a majority of your posts to provide value and engage your audience.
  • Know that in order to get people to click on your affiliate links and take action, you may need to post things several times on a variety of the social sites you participate in. This isn’t a ‘post it one time, make a million dollars’ gig. Although, anything is possible!
  • Ask yourself if the products/services that you would like to recommend from a certain provider will resonate with your tribe
  • The more connected you are in various niches, the easier this will become. For instance, being an active member of a hiking group online and then evaluating hiking equipment and sharing that info within the hiking group will be more effective than just posting it to all of your Facebook friends in general.

Enjoy playing with this, it can be a really fun way to make extra income!! There are people out there who make a tremendous living from just affiliate marketing alone!

Here are a few affiliate programs I participate in and recommend:

Rikka Zimmerman, Consciousness Facilitator, World Changer, click here.

REI, Inc. (Recreational Equipment, Inc.), for the best in outdoor equipment, click here

Certus Professional Network, Denver’s best Networking Organization, click here.

Social Media Manager School, quality training program to turn you into a social media manager, click here.

 

REI affiliate program, REI.com

REI affiliate program, scroll to the bottom of REI.com

Rikka Zimmerman's referral partner program

Rikka Zimmerman’s referral partner program, scroll to the bottom of RikkaZimmerman.com

I Love Being Weird!

Love being weirdThe other day, my best friend, whom I’ve known nearly my whole life said to me for about the thousandth time “Meghann, you’re so weird!” And I responded as I normally do, “thank you.” I received a message on Facebook just yesterday from a complete stranger who has been subscribed to my posts  who “just had to reach out and tell you that I love your energy, it’s apparent you’re not afraid to be yourself in any setting and that’s really nice to see.”

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not so weird that people stare at me sideways when I walk down the street or anything, I’m just never afraid to let whatever adventurous energy is in me come out to play. I realized this could be part of my personal brand even before I got out of corporate America. My second boss at my very “type A” job (I didn’t make it there very long) who loved my personality and I dug his (which is probably why I lasted there as long as I did) used to call me “Spunky.” I don’t think he even used my name when he referred to me in meetings.

Over the last two years I have realized life isn’t about what I do, who I know, where I go, or why I do what I do; it’s about who I be, when I truly be me. It’s that deep essence of seizing who I am when I just ‘be‘ – not masked by my personality, not tainted by a fake projection to fit in to a certain setting, and letting my being out. It’s when I stopped looking at myself as how I “fit in” to this reality, and start letting my true nature, from deep within my soul, out to play, that I really started loving life.

When we embrace our true self, whatever that looks like for us as an individual, more stuff starts showing up that just is “right” for us. In business, I’m happy to say, it’s the right clients – those whom you wake up thinking of ideas for, and go to bed grateful for having worked with,because you  love working with them. Personally, you begin to attract people who you enjoy spending time with, because they match your energy and vibrate at the same frequency.

I’m not ‘all’ the way there yet, but I tell you, the more I embrace my quirks, catch myself when I’m taking on someone else’s energy, and allow myself to “be” with whatever I am feeling at that time, the easier living in this very interesting reality, and the more enjoyable, it becomes.

All my friends out there who are willing to embrace that you are different, we are all different, that you can’t be compared to anyone else because there is no one like you… comment below and tell me why you love you?

Life as an Only Child

Recently I posed a question on Facebook asking for the other only children out there to chime in and tell me how they felt about being an only child. The responses actually astonished me – most of the people replied how they couldn’t stand it. I loved growing up as an only child. In fact, I can only remember one time when I wanted an older brother (my best friend had two really cool ones), which my mom explained would be impossible to create, so I gave up on the cause. I decided to write this post, to refute many of the arguments out there that growing up as an only child sucks. In my experience, it doesn’t.

Here are some of the circumstances surrounding my only child-dom:
• I was a young child in the 80s and a teen in the 90s
• My mom stayed at home with me, my dad worked and traveled quite a bit for business
• I was very well rounded as a child – I was active in music, sports, and I played outside as much as possible
• I grew up in a neighborhood with many children my age, we played together all the time
• The television never babysat me, I always did my homework before anything else, I was raised in what I considered a strict household

Only child – been there, done that like a champ, got the t-shirt!

As an only child, I feel that there were very few disadvantages.

First, I never could ‘pull one over’ on mom and dad. I didn’t even have a dog to blame stuff on. My fish and stuffed animals did not play great scapegoats.
Modeling/teaching – I did notget to model myself after an older brother or sister, nor seek advice when my parents were being ‘tough on me.’ Also, I didn’t get to teach a younger sibling how to do things. I did, however, become an ‘older sister’ at 10 years old with the birth of my cousin. I practiced for months ahead of time, digging out my old cabbage patch dolls, and carrying or wheeling them around with me everywhere I went in preparation for all the time I was going to get to “take care” of him. I may have dressed him in my clothes a few too many times. Good thing he turned out right ;-)
I feel my childhood was lived in complete opposition to common stereotypes of only children.

Spoiled – This was one I heard often, “you don’t have any siblings? You must get everything you want.” I definitely didn’t get everything I wanted, and, things were only given to me if I was behaving and doing what I was responsible for doing. And the minute that I mouthed off to my parents or disobeyed, things were taken away. Even as a teenager, I worked during the summers to buy my gas and pay my car insurance and I paid for my own entertainment. Now my grandparents on the other hand, well they spoiled me. But that’s another story. I was just much cuter than my cousins. :-) kidding

Lonely – All only children must be really lonely. Wrong. I had the best situation! As I mentioned before, I had a lot of kids around me who were my age (that was included in the research my parents did while looking for the neighborhood we lived in.) I still to this day have the same best friend, whom I met at 4 years old. Between her, and about 5-6 other kids in the neighborhood, I could always have a friend over or hang out at one of their houses. We also lived in an area where there was a ton to do outside, during all 4 seasons. We weren’t children who were cooped up in front of the television. We were “playhouse warriors” and sled hill aficionados.

Too much pressure – Although I was definitely expected to do well in school, and there were rewards when I did and consequences when I didn’t, I do not feel as though I was put under too much pressure. My parents made themselves available to help me with anything academia; yes, my mom pulled out her old algebra, trig, geometry, and calc notes to refresh her memory in preparation to help with my distaste of mathematics. They are both extremely intelligent and were amazing role models.

 

Me with my parents, Tom and Lindy

I reaped a lot of benefits by being an only child raised by two baby boomers.

We traveled a lot! I went on my first trip to Europe at 4 years old and I have been there at least 15 times; I have been to 42 states and seen almost all the biggest and best national parks in the US. This was much easier to do when only having to pay for 3 people. I grew up knowing my relatives, near and far. We were always doing road trips to see cousins and family in MN, FL, NC, CA, PA – my parents and their siblings made a commitment early on to making sure that all of us cousins got to see one another frequently. I don’t consider my family to be distant relatives, but rather people I know well and adore and still visit regularly to this day.
I worked hard in school and earned good grades, and was always in higher level classes, which allowed me to easily get into college. I wasn’t allowed to party in high school and my parents always knew where I was. My mom had close ties to my schools from K-12, which meant that she knew who I was going to homecoming with my sophomore year before I even came home to tell her. I found this extremely annoying most of the time while growing up. I missed keggers and other popular high school ‘ragers’ which also peeved me and I definitely got caught for the two parties I tried to have during high school, and was justly punished. I frequently think of the time in college when I called my mom and said, “I’m sorry I was such a PITA in high school. I’m seeing people flunking left and right and getting out of control and most of them never had an ounce of discipline growing up. Thank you.”

Responsibility was something I learned all throughout my childhood. My parents believed that when I was in school, that was my primary job, and when summers came around, working was my responsibility. By the time I was out on my own after college, working and taking care of me weren’t shocking requirements.
The word shy is not part of my vocabulary. My parents made me, well ok, they highly encouraged me, to be outgoing and to meet new people. I learned early on that playing in my room by myself became boring quickly and that if friends were around, it made things much more fun! I can now get along with just about anyone.
I have some of the best, closest friends any woman could ever ask for. I know the value of friendship. I am also close to my parents. They are my trusted advisors, and my friends. I love and respect them infinitely.

Of course I’ll never know what it could have been like to have siblings. Truly though, I have been completely content being an only child.

I’d love to hear your comments – How did you feel (if you were an only child.) What are other stereotypes of only children? Are you considering having your child remain an only child and if so, what are your concerns?

Coming out of Darkness and Overwhelm into Happiness and Joy

How much easier can spreading consciousness be?? One of my favorite clients is Rikka Zimmerman and working with her and attending her classes, I have already experienced such amazing shifts in my life. Some of the areas I’ve done complete 180′s in: Relationship, Business, Money, Health, just to name a few.

Why am I blogging about this? I am an entrepreneur. Many of you reading this may be also. So here’s my story. January 2011 I was overwhelmed beyond belief. As an entrepreneur, I was always ‘broke.’ I was barely sleeping because I felt that I had to work a ton in order to ‘get to the next level and make money.’ I was dating energy sucker after energy sucker. I cried pretty much all the time, depression was the ‘new black’ for me. Feeling fat and gross, completely stressed out, lacking energy at all times and feeling… well… devastated.

What if all that was required was choosing change. If I was myself a year ago reading this blog post, I would likely have said “it’s not that easy Meghann, you have no money and you’re not courageous enough.”

And here’s what I’d say to my January 2011 self:

  • Stop cutting off your awareness – you know, that gut feeling inside that helps you know what to do and what not to do
  • Start trusting your KNOWING. Yes, you know.
  • Get out of judgment – of myself, my body, and others
  • Stop hanging out with people who don’t contribute to you going in the direction you have chosen to go. I always remember this quote “you are the sum of the 5 people you hang out with most.”

The results I have achieved thus far using Rikka’s teaching and my knowing because I have chosen to use them on a daily basis have resulted in the gift of my life, completely redesigned and rejuvenated. I have gained courage I never thought I had to do things like: go out on my own in business and be the potent captain of my own ship, resulting in exponentially increased happiness, clients and profits. Trademark myself as the Mistress of Social Media™ and stepped into a leadership role in my life and my community. Choosing a healthy lifestyle which again added more fun to my life. I’ve stopped dating men who are a suck on my energy and life and have been with an amazing, conscious man,  who is a constant positive contribution to all of me and I to him. I have a more profound relationship that is full of supportive energy and positivity with those family and friends I have chosen.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, desperate, devastated, like there’s no way out and this is “just what life’s going to be like,” stop. All that is required is to choose something different. Do things different. Start with one thing a day.

I would highly recommend beginning with some free resources from Rikka.

Oh, and there are a bunch of free resources out there too:

Rikka Zimmerman:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’d love to hear your comments. What do you love most about your life? What are you choosing to make it better every day?

My Favorite Quotes of All Time


By the way, if I don’t have a name next to the quote it’s because I don’t know who said it… feel free to comment with the appropriate name so I can give credit where credit is due!

“The mind attracts that which it feeds upon.” Napoleon Hill

“If only closed minds came with closed mouths.”

“If you love something let it go free. If it doesn’t come back, you never had it. If it comes back, love it forever.” Doug Horton

“I don’t know how to put this, but I’m kind of a big deal.” Will Ferrell

“The mind is like a parachute, it only functions when open.”

“There is no such thing as a social media ‘campaign.’ A social media campaign is like a one night stand in a world where we are supposed to marry our clients.” Gary Vay-Ner-Chuk

“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.” shing xiong

“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.” Napoleon Hill

“If you’re not growing, you’re dying.”

“It’s hard to get lice out of your head, and there’s no easy cure for shaking off campaign-based thinking, either.” David Berkowitz

“If you’re getting involved in social media marketing, you must first accept the ‘business casual’ approach – 50% personal, 50% professional. Kind of like a mullet – business in the front, party in the back.” Meghann Conter, Founder of Your Social Source.

“If something is not happening for you it doesn’t mean it’s never going to happen. It means you’re not ready for it.”

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to heaven, we were all going direct the other way – in short, the period was so far like the present period, that some of its noisiest authorities insisted on its being received, for good or for evil, in the superlative degree of comparison only.” Charles Dickens

Please add your favorites in the comment section below :-)

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